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Wordwise Insight, Issue #098
October 14, 2012

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BIBLE INSIGHTS (and Reader Q & A): What does the Bible have to say about the limits of premarital physical intimacy--especially as this relates to teens?

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Teens and Physical Intimacy

(Christian Guidelines for Intimacy)

QUESTION: Is petting and kissing for young people bad in a biblical context?

ANSWER: It’s a great question. I’m not sure I’m the best person to answer it (since my dating years were long ago), but I’ll give it a try. And I’ll begin by making an assumption: That you sincerely want to obey God, and do what’s best, or you wouldn’t have asked the question. If that’s so, here are some things to think about, as you develop your own standards in this area.

1) I’m not sure what other countries are like, but here in North America we live in a sex-obsessed–we could almost say a sex-crazed society. Movies, television shows, music videos, and more, targeting young people, glorify a sexually permissive and promiscuous lifestyle that is far from the moral purity God’s Word sets down for us.

And because sensuality and immoral behaviour are so widely condoned and promoted, peer pressure on teens to fit in can be tremendous. Nobody wants to feel like a misfit, and it takes a lot of courage to stand alone.

I heard of a young woman who was taunted by others because she was still a virgin. They mocked her for being a religious goody-goody and an old-fashioned prude. But one day she turned on them and said, “Look, I can be just like you are any time I want to. But you can never again be just like me!” (Well said!)

Since God created us (Gen. 1:27), we know that He invented sex, and it’s one of the things He pronounced “very good” (vs. 31). However, like many other things, this gift can become “very bad” when it’s out of balance with other blessings, or not used within the boundaries God has set.

We can illustrate that with water. Water is definitely “very good,” and necessary for us. But if there’s flooding--water that overflows its proper boundaries--it can be dangerous and destructive.

2) Teen-agers have to be especially...

For the rest of this article, click on Teens and Physical Intimacy.


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But as many of you will know, a blog is especially designed to facilitate a conversation on its particular subject. Readers can easily post comments about what they see, and I'm able to reply. I hope you will take part in the discussion!

Through 2010, almanac entries dealt with what happened in hymn history on each day of the year. Beginning in 2011, I hope to analyze hymns from a biblical standpoint, linking to the material that has come before.

My hope is that the blog will add to the value of the website and this newsletter, and promote some profitable exchanges on the subject of sacred music.

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